40 Questions (39 because i skipped one)

Hello friends.

My name is Shannon.

I am not an amazing writer, but I love trying. :)

I am a counselor (but not YOUR counselor, so please consult your own personal counselor or doctor before utilizing anything on this blog to improve mental health or lifestyle).

I love people, travel, food, exercise, laughing, Jesus...all of which i hope to include in this blog.

For this initial post I am starting with "40 Deep Questions" i found at-    https://thoughtcatalog.com/rania-naim/2016/02/40-deep-questions-to-ask-if-you-really-want-to-get-to-know-someone/

1. What’s your philosophy in life?

If you can be fearless be fearless...but until then do it scared. 

2. What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself?

i want to change the way i give value to my body.  i have always been told/thought it wasn't a good enough body because it does not look how i want it to. instead, i want to celebrate the amazing things it CAN do

3. Are you religious or spiritual?

i guess you could say i found spirituality through religion, and i feel that both are important  

4. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?

EXTROVERT!!! :) 

6. What was the best phase in your life?

College and on

7. What was the worst phase in your life?

maybe jr. high, but that's like...normal right? 

8. Is what you’re doing now what you always wanted to do growing up?

No, but it is something i feel designed to do and a role i have always felt i filled unofficially

9. What makes you feel accomplished?

knowing i have done good work, words of affirmation

10. What’s your favorite book/movie of all time and why did it speak to you so much?

i LOVE the Mark of the Lion series by Francine Rivers.  i think it spoke to me because the main character is a quiet heroine with a strong faith and a courageous heart

11. What is a relationship deal breaker for you?

being taken for granted

12. Are you more into looks or brains?

both, but i'm definitely a brains over brawn kinda gal

13. Would you ever take back someone who cheated?

i don't know, and i hope i never have to find out

14. How do you feel about sharing your password with your partner?

i have no problems with this

15. When do you think a person is ready for marriage?

i don't know.  i think that's between that person, their person, and their own convictions

16. What kind of parent do you think you will be?

i HOPE i would be a good parent...but my guess is i will be a tad controlling and have overly high expectations

17. What would you do if your parents didn’t like your partner?

i would suggest they reconsider

18. Who is that one person you can talk to about just anything?

i have a few people that i feel comfortable sharing things with

19. Do you usually stay friends with your exes?

No way

20. Have you ever lost someone close to you?

yes.  i lost multiple friends in high school, and have lost family members

21. If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up?

this definitely depend on who is around

22. What’s an ideal weekend for you?

that depends on how the week has gone.  mostly i like to hang out with friends, play games, drink coffee at Starbucks (let's hear it for the "new" nitro brew cold cream), read, and watch movies

23. What do you think of best friends of the opposite sex?

i think it is possible, but can be tricky

24. Do you judge a book by its cover?

sometimes, but if it's a a book i really want to check out i just shop around until i find a cover i DO like 

25. Are you confrontational?

i am not afraid of confrontation, but i would not call myself confrontational

26. When was the last time you broke someone’s heart?

to be honest, i am not sure if i've ever broken someone's heart.  i flipped my mom off once, and that didn't go over well...but i don't think she was heartbroken?  (sorry if you were mom!!!)

27. Would you relocate for love?

man...that is a tough question

28. Did you ever write a journal?

yes, i love journaling

29. What are you most thankful for?

Jesus, my husband, my family

30. Do you believe in second chances?

i think so

31. What’s the one thing that people always misunderstand about you?  

they always think i'm angry

32. What is your idea of a perfect vacation?

adventure

33. What did your past relationship teach you?

words are just words.

34. What are your thoughts on online dating or tinder?

i think we live in a culture where our lives are increasingly lived online, so online dating and apps seem like a normal progression to me.  having said that, i did not enjoy online dating at all

35. What’s on your bucket list this year?

balance

36. When have you felt your biggest adrenaline rush?

i'm not sure...i remember a time in college where we did an RA q/a session meant to build unity but i ended up being the only person to disagree with a tough question and i thought "im about to get fired for just having an opinion" (spoiler-i didn't, but i was not the most popular person at training)

37. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done and would you do it again?

i don't think i do a lot of crazy things.  i punched someone once because he made my sister cry...but that just felt like the right thing to do

38. If a genie granted you 3 wishes right now, what would you wish for?

1. clean water and good food for everyone

2. that people were able to value others WHILE disagreeing with them

3. responsible use by all of any type of media

39. What’s your biggest regret in life?

letting a guy i thought i was a friend tell me all the reasons he didn't want to date me over and over again like his opinion mattered (there are others, but this one seems to have run a muck in my self-esteem sector)

40. What do you think about when you’re by yourself? 

everything...life, death, things that would be awesome, things that would be devastating, food, fun, people...